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Josiane Ndjock: Author and French specialist.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

There is nothing perfect on earth…but in my opinion, if we really want to attribute such an idea to a human being, then it will go to women. Women are perfect for this moment in history. Research shows that when women are able to fully develop their potential in the labor market, their respective countries can grow their GDP. The world is yet to understand how valuable we are.

If there is any advice I would want to give, I would say: “Take a good look at yourself: you are Precious, Energetic, Radiant, Friendly, Efficient, Caring, Terrific = PERFECT”. Don’t accept the bad report you may receive from society. You can be so much more than you think! You could be the solution this world needs.

How do you get there?

1– Believe in yourself (you are talented, you are strong, you are smart = No man, not even the strongest can juggle with all your duties for a long time. You can wash, clean, cook, give birth, take care of children, of your man, of his family, of your family, of yourself at the same time and for as long as you live… That should tell you how strong you are).

2– Believe you can make it: (if you are able to do all the above with passion and patience, what is there that you can’t do? Remember when you don’t give up on hurts from your children, your man, his family, your family, the society and that you still find a way of moving forward, loving more and doing more, that’s the spirit of a winner. Don’t quit!)

3– Give yourself the chance to make it:
*Educate yourself: (learn, fight for knowledge; don’t let anything stop you from knowing more; not a pregnancy, not a guy, not even money. As a student, if you engage in a relationship learn about family planning. If your guy does not want you to study, then he doesn’t want your happiness, because knowledge is light! If money is the problem, then don’t be afraid to sell water, salt, or sweets, to help further your education… I know what I’m talking about).
* Get a job and become financially independent. Don’t stay home and be a receiver… Nobody values beggars! What happens if that man leaves you or dies? Who is going to take care of you and your family?… Learn to gain and share. VALUE lies in it. It’s not only about the salary, it is also because working helps build networks and opens doors to limitless and profitable experiences. It helps you grow as a person, to know that you are contributing to the development of your society in your little corner… Get a Job!
*Make God the center of your life: (respect God by following His commands, you will avoid a lot of misfortune in your life and you’ll give yourself a better chance to get where you want to be and where you should be… for instance, if you don’t steal, you stand better chances not to go to prison… if you don’t prostitute yourself, you stand better chances to avoid unwanted pregnancies and STD s…).

Have you failed somewhere? It is never too late… Where there’s life, there’s hope… So stand up and LEARN to get what you want, how you want it, and when you want it.

Good luck!

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“Half” of the world

Why half of the world? Because it’s my way of  saying: “Look people, it’s half already!” Now we can touch the other half and let them know how important women are.

In The Art of Drawing, by Bernard Chaet the phrase: “The purpose gives birth to the idea”, has made me understand something about our creative nature.

Let’s see now. We sometimes say to ourselves we have no ideas, right?

Really?

Put it this way. Do you have a purpose? Is there something that you think about a lot. Something you want to try and achieve, some time in the future?  If yes, then go for the purpose and the ideas will flow to support it.

Try it!

Probably crazy ideas at first. Don’t despair, I thought you said you had no ideas.

So where do ideas come from? Ideas come from the purpose you set yourself to attain, or someone else sets before you.

In 1971 I won the art prize for my class at Presbyterian Secondary School in Ghana. I received a book that was not by any stretch of the imagination an art related book. Strange! The book was: A Quarter of Mankind: An Anatomy of China today, by Dick Wilson.

My art teacher at the time was my aunt, Juliana Armar. Did she see something I couldn’t yet see?

Did she see that one day I would create a design and call it “Woman is The Key”, and out of the design would come a question. A question that I hope will put a large number of people into action mode.  A mode that will affect change.

The Question is: In your life what have you detected, that you can communicate as a vision and give direction to better women’s future.

By so doing you can help touch the world

Questions demand answers. So if you find in a given situation you have no answers, perhaps you have not yet asked the right question. In this project, we hope for answers that will provide the emotion that change needs, to get off the ground.

Many voices working together can bring about change.

I started with a few friends, then I broadened my outlook and continued my network on LinkedIn.

I have connected with some who were not yet born, when I thought of  “Woman is The Key” in May 1981. But I could not move forward without their birth and contribution into this worldwide project. There are also others whom I had probably already met but did not know it. Certainly I did not know that they would be a piece of the puzzle, that I could not solve by myself.

For example, I connected with a lady whose house I had been to many years ago when we were in high school. We were teenagers at the time living in Ghana. For the life of me I can’t remember if I ever spoke to her in person, but I do remember her family lived in the same neighbourhood as my best friend at the time. I actually went to her house a couple of times with my friend. Funny thing is I only remember asking about her brothers. We thought her Dad was very strict or something. Guess what, her Dad was not even around those years of her life.

Fast forward to now, there she is on LinkedIn as an architect and fashion designer, forty years later!

She is now helping to answer the Woman is The Key Question.  I wish I had looked her in the eyes then and said: “One day you will help me answer a question that will touch half the planet.” She would have thought: “Wow this dude has a big dream” or something to that effect.

So far I have found out that the people who answer a question about leading others, are usually those who have tried and done something for themselves.

However, small their effort, it’s still an inspiration to someone else.

Running with the idea that creativity and passion are important, let me introduce you to two ladies.

First, Helen Teague wrote back and said: “A sound sense of self worth is a healthy platform on which to live one’s life. Being able to develop self worth is obviously helped or hindered by character and environment.”

“I realize that an exploration of one’s creativity is a fruitful as well as robust route towards a balanced sense of self worth.”

“Any genuine exploration is bound to be full of blind alleys – and so choosing to go down – or up – a blind alley can seem a tough choice – unless each journey stems from an effort at creativity. Then there will always be a pay off. At the very least the blind alley would be an exploration of a creative possibility which in itself is a contribution to the quality of your life, and possibly to others lives. At best it will be revealing and fulfilling.”

“So I would say that being actively and purposefully creative every day is enhancing, may be liberating and could even result in a work of art.”

The second lady is Ofie Ofuatey-Kudjoe who said: “It is extremely important for us to identify our passions early in life, ensure that we do everything possible to hone our God-given talent; and work towards building our careers around both.”

“A career should not be that which you do just to make money. That’s a job and with that one must toil.”

“A career is that which brings you joy and fulfillment as it generates an income for you. Pursue this and you will never ‘work’ again.”

“Remember to live life to the fullest, love life in all that you do; and live love in all your interactions.”

There are many more voices coming. With new voices come new ways of looking at an old problem: how to motivate more people to succeed by removing the obstacles to their God-given destiny.

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The story remains untold

I took an art class in acrylic painting a few years ago, so I was very happy to meet up with the art teacher at her exhibition recently. Vian Shamounki Borchert was exhibiting at the Kentlands Mansion in Gaithersburg, MD.

During the exhibition, one of her paintings caught my eye: “The story remains untold” and so I asked her about it.

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“The story remains untold”

Vian told me it was done in the expressionist style because it’s an attempt to catch the psychological mood of the situation and of the model. Through conversation the model had earlier shared a little about her personal life. Then Vian as an artist captured in bold strokes, the flow of the model’s personality.

The successes or failures we all go through as we traverse this social landscape are part of life. It would be interesting if the model became the artist and revealed what she wanted to show the world.

There are images etched in our minds as we meet people in our daily lives. Depending on how we think, they are like snap shots for some and paintings for others. In life’s daily run, the subjects are often only useful for that moment. Important yes, and we are not trying to lessen their input in our life, nor belittle them as individuals. But more often than not their story remains untold until the next time we meet.

Let me suggest perhaps next time, that you find out how that person’s family is doing. Then with the eye of a master photographer or a gifted painter, catch the depth of the answer that is given.  Is he or she happy, sad, fulfilled or still yearning a dream unrealised.

Your next move can be an important one: a soft answer can help heal someone’s soul.